Scouting history and a great quote for kids
Self expression through writing. As adults, many of us have used multiple different tools to take a step back from our lives and process what is working for us and what is not. But not very many of us have written our life story as a way to find patterns that might be holding us back. Stacy Brookman does just that and she is doing it with kids as well. For me personally, when I think about writing in school or as a kid I very rarely think about it as a tool of self-reflection... but more of a rigid way to be criticized for spelling and grammar. In this episode, we are going to change all of that and really dive into the power of writing and how it can help kids learn about failure and to become more resilient.
Give them something to mimic. They are looking towards you to learn and they feel lost when they can't understand what you are doing.
Dying for our kids. Giving all our resources without teaching them how to survive on their own.
Writing letters to show gratitude
What You Will Learn The 5 steps to writing the perfect letter of gratitude. Share a memory that is important to both of you. Describe the person you are writing to in an admirable way. Talk about the difference that person has made in your life and the life of others. Say that you are grateful Handwrite your signature. Ideas for getting your kids to write thank you letters might be to make them write them before that are allowed to play with the new toy. Let the kids see you writing thank you letters. Write thank you letters to your kids. Create a notebook that you can fill with the letters that you write to your kid so they will be able to read and keep them. Help your kids as much as you can in the prosses of writing the letter. And of course, grab a copy of Lynette's book :) The link is below. Resources http://www.goodwaystowrite.com/
A very common mistake we all make when communicating to anyone.
They too can be taught to embracing rejection.
What to say and do for a kid ( or adult ) that wants to give up.
Getting a high from doing something good is just as easy as getting a high from bullying.
Get kids outside, in the mud, creating and learning. Spark Play Space is changing the way kids play! What You Will Learn • Mary Kate and her husband (who is a teacher) are noticing the amount young adults that are lost in the real world and lack the skills to do simple tasks. • Sparks launch event was a Mud Play Event • The Millianels in the U.S fall short when it comes to the skills that employers are looking for. The older generations are far outpacing them in the ability to problem solve problems in technology-rich environments. •Start with trust. truly give your kids trust and let hold that responsibility. • Letting your kids deal with the results of the risks that they have chosen. They learn common sense and physics in the real world. Quote of the day "Permit when you can protect when you must." Homework: Practice not saying "careful"... instead, point out facts. The cars are going fast, there are rocks over here, I'm going to light the stove now. Whenever you can let the kids decide what risks they're going to take and let them deal with the consequents. Resources Kim Jon Payn Simplicity Parenting TED Talk 5 dangerous things every kid should do http://fortune.com/2015/03/10/american-millennials-are-among-the-worlds-least-skilled/ Sparkplayspace.org https://www.facebook.com/sparkplayspace/?fref=ts As always thanks to all of you who are amazing supporters of 'How To Raise a Maverick'. I love all the reviews on I-tunes and keep those e-mails coming. If you haven't connected with me yet ... you can sign up for the newsletter, reach me through the contact form or connect on Facebook. Let me know what you want me to dig into... what's keeping you up at night? Trust me if you have a question... we all are wondering the same thing... so please share! :)
Comfort around those that are diffrent from you is a skill learned at an early age . But what if you don't have people in your life that are all that diffrent from you or your kids?
This can train them to take on the self-starter, problem solving mind set.
They look at sexy images... what Should you say?!
Human need to work, it's a gift and kids should be taught just that.
Pretending to be GREAT is powerful.
Sextortion, Addiction, Erectile Disfunction. Kids watching porn and what you need to know about it. Kids must tell the first day that they see porn or studies have shown that they never will. Jensen believes that porn is the worst addiction because of the fact that you can never detox from the porn images in your head. Like other addictions, porn must be more and more extreme in order to fule the addition. The acting like they "like it" in these films creates an expectation that violence is expected and must be liked. Younge men are now being treated for erectile dysfunction at earlier and earlier ages because of watching porn and not being able to have erections with a real person. Jensen thinks that the reason most parents that give their kids smartphones and don't fully understand what is "out there" AND they truly believe that their kids would never be interested in porn. Any game that is connected to the internet has the capability to expose kids to porn or sextortion. Sextortion is a fast growing issue for kids. Someone online convinces them to take photos of themselves. They are then blackmailed into sending money. Porn addiction shows up in MRI's exactly like any other addiction. The prefrontal cortex ( which is the executive functioning part of the brain) has actually shrunk in size, as a result, of lack of use. The addiction has hijacked the brain. HomeWork Begin the conversation with your kids about TODAY. A great conversation starter is to ask the "What if" or "What would you do?" questions. What would you do if someone showed you porn or pictures of naked people? What would you do?". Next order Good Pictures, Bad Pictures asap! :) As always thanks to all of you who are amazing supporters of 'How To Raise a Maverick'. I love all the reviews on I-tunes and keep those e-mails coming. If you haven't connected with me yet ... you can sign up for the newsletter, reach me through the contact form or connect on Facebook. Let me know what you want me to dig into... what's keeping you up at night? Trust me if you have a question... we all are wondering the same thing... so please share! :)
Emotional learning program...Choose Love Enrichment Program is a free Pre-K through 12th grade social and emotional learning program that teaches educators and their students how to choose love in any circumstance and helps them become connected, resilient, and empowered individuals. These skills, tools and attitudes have been proven through decades of scientific research to be the best way to ensure a healthy, meaningful and purpose-filled life.
Mass shooting solutions
♦ How Scarlett Lewis forgave Adam Lanza
♦How survivors in Rwanda used gratitude to overcome the trauma of genocide.
♦Yes. We should we talk to our kids about shootings in schools and make sure the school has an active shooter plan.
♦The best thing that was said to Scarlett Lewis after her son was murdered in the Sandy Hook School shooting…
was… “there are no words.”
♦Trying to relate to the pain often makes both sides feel awkward.
♦ How compassion in action is how Scarlett Lewis and her older son are healing
Police in Our School Books to help kids understand increased protection in the schools
Emergency Prep for kids ‘Sesame Street'
Past and future of the independent thinker.
The history and background of the word Maverick and why I chose Maverick as the type of person I want my kids to grow to be.
The very first Maverick was Samuel A. Maverick a politician in Texas who happened to also have cattle.
Maverick refused to brand his cattle saying that he did not want to hurt the cows. This was beyond unheard of at the time and with that, the word Maverick was born. An independent thinker, someone who does things their own way.
So what does this Texan have to do with our kids?
Being a Maverick means that you do not need a label (brand) to define who you are.
Maverick kids are comfortable being the odd one out, are willing and able to stand up for what is right with the mental fortified to withstand the social pressure of the 'herd'.
Maverick parents don't care what other parents think they do what is right for their family.
Why is it important now more than ever to raise kids with this kind of inner strength?
From 2007 to 2016 subside amongst 10-14-year-olds has doubled (see NCOSE doc below) Why? No one can really say for sure but there is a lot of speculation about bullying and social media stress. My hope is that our Maverick kids will be able to stand up against and stop this hateful behavior in its stacks.
57% of bullying stops if just one person defends the person being picked on.
My hope is that our Maverick kids will also know what porn is and the addictive, socially damaging nature of it.
When they are shown porn they will be able to confidently say "I don't watch porn" "Because it's addictive, harmful to women, and promotes human trafficking".