Myth #1: Telling kids how they were "made" is a good way to explain the 'Birds and the Bee's'. Myth #2: "We use anatomically correct names for private parts..." Myth #3 - I'm fine; I have heard everything I need to know from friends who have taken body safety courses. Myth #4 - It's too early (the kids are too young) or it's too late (the kids are too old).
From Hot Head Mom to Calm, Cool and Collected For many many moons, I have had my skinny little toolbox of trick that I can pull out when kids decide to push ALL my buttons. BUT things have changed and I now have the ability to withstand the creative wrath my offspring can throw at me. What happened you may ask... well I have been working VERY hard for a year to acquire the skills of a "master Parent (if there is such a thing). While I am still a far cry away from a perfect mom I have had a major paradigm shift that has served me and this wild family of mine well. Here are the three shifts that have happened to me... 1. Positive time out... yes, you read it right... positive, NOT NEGATIVE. And this time out is not just for the kiddos... it's for you as well. I am officially giving you permission to lock yourself in the bathroom, check your phone, hang out with me on Instagram :) and get the anger and primitive brain to take the back burner to your frontal lobe. YES use your highly evolved frontal lobe to deal with your little (or big) spitfire child. And get them to do the same is a spot ( far from you) where they can chill the heck out). Once the rage is gone THEN you can decide how you want to deal with your parenting challenge. 2. Kids DON'T have to feel bad to change their behavior. This has been a massive shift for me because when I think if discipline I don't envision the kids enjoying it. but the reality is yo do what the kids to feel good about themselves or they will not do better. This is a hard shift for most parents to make (including me). 3. Connecting and recognizing feelings instead of shaming. If you haven't yet you should read "Love Languages"... find out what your kids love language is and connect with them that way. My littlest love language is touch, so hugs snuggles and tickles are her jam for sure. So after you connect, listen and really try to empathize as much as you can (authenticity).
Part 2: How to get tested to see if you will become violent or suicidal before taking medication that could cause involuntary intoxication. Then we talk about discipline and natural consequences. The pros and cons.
Is Anyone in Your Family on Antidepressants or Other Psychoactive Medications? -Before we dive into this I want to let you know that you can be tested to find out if you are susceptible to these side effects.- Selma Eikelenboom-Schieveld is M.D and a medical forensic expert who is examining the relationship between psychoactive medication (treating anxiety disorders and depression) and involuntary intoxication (which can lead to suicide, homicide and extreme violence). WOW is all I can say! If you listen to ANY of our episodes it needs to be this one. Consider it a public service announcement!!!